This problem came up to me a couple weeks ago when a girl asked me out (I was kinda surprised cause not many girls find me attractive or anything) but I already had a boyfriend (Yes I'm Bi..) So I told her that but now Shes telling everyone that Im gay after I told her i'm bi and I told her not to tell anyone cause I didn't want my parents or friends finding out yet and now Half of the people I know are making fun of me for being gay... I can't go to church now because I know someone is just gonna end up **** up my day there... I only have a few friends but atleast they understand and don't judge me... I'm just afraid of my parents of finding out.. what if they're ashamed of me or something? I don't want them to know just yet... all while I think my boyfriends cheating on me What can I do?? and Please don't hate on me here... I don't need anymore of that..

Seems you can start by learning to limit the information you give out, you could have told the girl "thanks, but I am in a relationship.' but you didn't, you made sure to say Boyfriend.
Now you bring the subject to a Public arena, and made sure to add, "Don't hate" to your comments, you have to know someone is going to pounce on it.
As far as Boyfriend cheating on you, that's life, you have to live it yourself. just like the rest of the Human Race.
People "hating" on others is as old as Time itself. That's just the way it is.
Bottom line is: you are the one who lives your life, and you are the only one who matters, If you are not happy
with who you are, why care what others think anyhow?
More than likely the Parents know, they just love you enough to let you keep your secrets to yourself.

It's kinda like the same reason people hate Otakus they hate because they don't understand. To them it's "Weird" and "Obscene" because they act and believe on what Society calls "Normal".They live in fear of being rejected by society so they just kinda "Go with the flow" and hate just because others are doing it but they will never acknowledge that because they would need to be their own person and most of the time they make themselves out to be what society wants them to be. In the end it all boils down to what they think is "Right" and "Wrong" but even that is based off of society. Personally I don't care what they think.

I'm Bi and I love Loli but that doesn't make me as weird as anybody else because we are all weird and if anybody doesn't think so they are lying to themselves but If they hate me for liking what I like go ahead by all means they have the right to I know what I like is frowned upon by society but that will not stop me from liking what I like because that is who I am. In actuality I envy you for being able to make a post like this because that question will bring about all sorts of answers mostly Trolls but I would have been too scared to post it that's why I can sit here and say I love Loli I always have and was just to scared to admit it to myself but I don't care what others think because it's my life I can do what I want but that doesn't mean I will break the law and go rape children. That is just what I believe and people are free to hate all they want just know I did something they would never have the guts to do and that is go against Society. I know many of my "Friends" would instantly call me an outcast after they read this but those who don't have the potential to become true Friends and look past what others would call weird because they understand that they have things about them people shouldn't know be it sexual interests or otherwise. I'm sorry to make such a large post but it was necessary to get my point across.

sighs.. i really didnt wanna get into this but here is my own misconception/misunderstanding/misinformed deduction or how ever you put it.

You mentioned church. By all means I am not a christian so cant really say how it is for them. but i understand praying.

the concept of praying is to find refuse and forgiveness for our sins and pray for benefits and blessings and all of that works when we worship our God.

Now one of the biggest reason that a gay/bi individual may have in a church is to ask for forgiveness for their sexual orientation. Lets face it, in all the holy scriptures that were sent to mankind gay-ism is prohibited in all of them. and the soul reason is sexuality is a trait by choice, we are not born into it. so, unless you are repenting for your sins (i am calling it sin cause you mentioned church) there is really no point in going to church. and be sincere.

about hating gay individuals.... ohh boy that totally a different subject. no idea why gay people can be hated for no reasons. its like hating on black people. altho i must add exposure to gay people creates a potential for children to follow that same trait. maybe parents do not want their kids to become gay. lets face it no matter how much most people say they are open minded they are not.

anyways for me i will rather have a straight friend than a gay friend... for my own prejudice but that do not mean i am hating on them... its a personal choice, a very philosophical one.

I have to say that this issue will never be resolved.
As for me, do i hate gay and bisexual people?
No , i don't.. Do i understand why they are what they are? No, i don't..
But i have to think of the future. I have sons and daughters.
If one comes to me and tells me he/she is gay or bi, what do i do?
I will accept it of course, i won't denounce him or her for this.
Of course i will be disappointed, of course there will be discussions , but in the end?
I will accept it because it will involve my child and my children are important to me.
So, i don't hate gays and bisexual persons.
I have a friend who i strongly believe is gay but we have never talked about it and i have never bothered him about it.
When he's ready, he'll tell me.
Then we'll go fishing again and life will go on as it always does.

MrSinister out!

I don't know what to say dp except I accept you . Live and let live.

@ SPY and everyone else who believes sexual orientation is a choice. Did you choose to be heterosexual? I know I didn't. I just am.

As for what religion has to say about homosexuality, you are right SPY, but as an atheist I don't give a piece of rabbit's poop. And as an atheist I have also wondered why all gays are not also atheists given the bible's position on homosexuality, but nevertheless there are churches that are gay friendly despite this.

@spacemanspiff... i think you need to do a little bit of research on how and why an individual becomes homosexual or hetaro sexual. a few details will come straight from that. sexual orientation is not hereditary nor is it a genetic disorder. it is still a very conscience choice that a child takes from his/her upbringing. to be honest it has to do with how the opposite sex parent is towards that child that actually defines which way that child will go as far as sexuality goes.

i applaud you on being straight forward about your stance on religion. but you could have said it without disrespect. anyways that is not the issue, the issue was why people are hating on homosexuality. which i do not.

i still do not see the reason for going to church. you would be correct to say that homosexual people should be atheist. and churches that are homosexual friendly i am sure all churches are homosexual friendly but the point remains, going to church should be to repent. not to be accepted for their constant sin. as it is sin by churches. and the one churches that accepts them as not sinful are aberration of biblical stipulation.

anyways i am not hating gay people. i just dont want them to influence my kids becoming homosexual. that is why i will stay clear of them. its not hate its precaution. the life style is just something i do not approve. simply put. its counter productive towards humanity.

When I saw this thread, I cringed at how much trolling I was going to have to delete here. But I must say, you all have handled this conversion very maturely, and my respect for each of you has grown.

Just gonna start out by saying that I am not gay, but I am completely accepting of homosexuality. If people are truly happy with another member if the same sex, I say go for it. Too many people live their lives depressed, or in fear of being rejected. And it's not just with gays/bisexuals. Nerds, for example, typically try to hide there nerdism in public, for example. Not me; as an adult, I've no problem admitting that I like Dungeons and Dragons.

But anyways, your bisexuality is not something that you should try to hide, but embrace it. Let people make fun of you. Just grin and tell them how happy you are. Eventually they'll grow tired of your lack of a response, or they'll learn to accept you. As for your parents; I don't think that they would just take a stranger's word that there child is gay. In fact, I would just outright tell them. From my experience with those I know who are gay, parents are usually accepting. Even the ones who start off not understanding usually come to accept it.

Again, great job keeping this mature, guys. As long as it stays that way, I see no reason to close this thread.

I have a strong gay urge to troll at ace... he popped up out of no where... jk,,,

well to be frank for your homosexuality the blame kind of falls to your parents. as you picked it up from either your mom or your father in the path of growing up at the very first stage of adolescence. so just carry a good load of nerd facts about homosexuality and if your parents give u hard time then just tell them well this is where you were supposed to behave this way instead you chose to behave that way... thus made me homosexual/bisexual. i think science can beat any argument on this one. lol. just saying think out side the box.

if my son comes up with an explanation like that i think it will be weeks before i could say a word to get back at him lol. now that i think about it, that can really crack me up. ok thats just me.

I do not believe it true that sexual orientation results from parenting.

By my perspective, we have no fewer human sexualities in fact than human beings. What forges an identity from any given set of such is ultimately capital's trajectory within the terrain of current social relations. Are there social cues and circumstances that might inform this? Certainly yes, and yet the social construct of sexual identity has so very many social forces at work informing it we could hardly point towards any given circumstance as a determining factor.

Yet, I'm admittedly biased in this assessment being a Queer Marxist